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Elizabeth Fournier: All Men Are Cremated Equal

Elizabeth Fournier joins me today, as a guest, to talk about her book: All Men Are Cremated Equal: My 77 Blind Dates. She has been on a blog tour the last few weeks, sharing her experiences with readers. We are lucky enough to have her stop by and spend some time with us. Elizabeth shares her adventures in this delightful book. Follow along with her as she steps out on 77 Blind Dates. Wow! The stories she has to tell…the lessons she shares with us! I know that you will enjoy reading this book as much as I did!

What did I learn from having a drink or a dinner with so many blind dates over the course of a year? One thing really stands out: I cannot believe I had such patience to plod through all those dates — I think I am still quite flummoxed!

Flummoxed is a sassy word meaning confused. It seems peculiar that I had to go out with 77 men in order to find true love. But being set up on a date by friends is a terrible paradox. It’s momentarily stirring to envision getting together with a fresh prospect that comes pre-ordained as nice-looking, sharp, and charming by people you know and trust.

Predicting magnetism is hard, and being acquainted with a person isn’t always the clearest lens through which to view their intrinsic worth as a partner. I’ve set up two of my girlfriends with men, and it actually worked. Marriages happened. One taker was my college roommate, and she thanked me by making me her maid of honor. I love love!

Even though not one of my blind dates netted a coveted second date, I’m happy I accepted these dates from wonderful people in my life who meant well with their great intentions. My friends spent some of their spare time trying to find me some love, yet it sure wasn’t what I thought I signed up for.

But these experiences brought various bits of wisdom. Here’s a smidge:

Make a list. It’s imperative! Know what you want. After you’ve weighed your deal-breakers, your “must-haves” become more apparent. As long as your list of “must-haves” is realistic, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t be able to have them. Use the reality of past relationships to help with this list. These partnerships didn’t work for a reason. Now that you know better, you can do better. Many clues here, ladies!

He’s just not my type. Get ride of that phrase! It’s a common throw-away phrase we say, but what do we really know about “our type?” As children we have an idea of the kind of person we’d like to share our lives with when we grow up. Seeking that implied perfection is making it impossible to find anyone, and gives you an indirect excuse to stay single. We’ve all done it in one form or another and often with the same result — disenchantment. No one can live up to what we’ve built up in our imagination.

Do not edit yourself. I think I was always one of these weenie girls who said what I thought someone wanted to hear. It was hard not to try to fit into the individual mold of what I guessed their dream girl would be, but I stayed strong and took the rejection in the form of a weird, uncomfortable silence between sips of beer. We are all unique with many funky parts that make a whole woman. Be that woman, and be proud of that woman.

Your life is now. So go out and live it, because love is all around you.

About Elizabeth:
After she got over her dream of being a Solid Gold Dancer, Fournier promptly headed into the local funeral home and asked for a job, any job. She became the live-in night keeper which meant she resided in a trailer in the far reaches of a large, hilly cemetery and slept with a shotgun near her bed. It was the scariest summer of her life. She is currently the voice of the autopsy exhibit in the forensic wing at the United States National Museum of Medicine and a full-time mortician. She is also a ballroom dance instructor at Reed College in Portland, Oregon. But she couldn’t resist writing the story of her unusual method of dating that led her to the love of her life.

Find out more about Elizabeth by visiting her website: her blog: All Men Are Cremated Equal Blog. All Men Are Cremated Equal is available through, B&, Powell’s Books, and some independent or chain bookstores.

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  1. Angel says

    got the book, It is great!

  2. Elizabeth Fournier says

    Thanks, Angel! I appreciate your readership.

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